A Flickering Life: The Audiobook

It is with the utmost joy I present A Flickering Life: A Memoir of Autism: the audiobook. Written by myself and read/edited/music selected by Web Bist.

Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Part 5

This has been an undertaking long in the works. It started in June when Web read my book, noticed there wasn’t an audiobook, and asked for permission to do so. It was my pleasure to allow him to record this and it has been the greatest pleasure working with him this last few months.

Web gave his afterword on the audiobook so I’d like to give mine. While I never had any intention of recording an audio edition of the book, I wrote the text as an extended monologue. My hope was that it would come off that way, which at least one beta reader picked up on. Ultimately though, I didn’t record one due to time and my own difficulty reading aloud. (I read far faster than I speak.)

Web put the book where it belonged. His reading brings the book to live in the exact manner I’d hoped. His inflections are the precise ones I would use. His energy is spot on. No, it’s not my voice reading it but there’s not a note I’d change. Web gave me the gift every writer wants: He showed me my work connected. Web made my story his with his incredible reading.

It’s a strange, beautiful experience to hear your life told by another. It truly is. You step back and view it in a whole new light. You become invested in your life as a story and if you’re lucky, you’re still interested.

So what’s my hope with this? Simple. I hope you listen to it. I hope you like it. I hope you share it.

Track List
•Level Plaguing Field – Michael Giacchino
•Intro – Danny Elfman
•Talk to Jan – Danny Elfman
•Room of Books – Danny Elfman
•Minneapolis – Danny Elfman
•Reprise 1 – Danny Elfman
•Going Sour – Danny Elfman
•Little Child – Wes Montgomery
•Yesterday’s Child – Wes Montgomery
•A Quiet Thing – Wes Montgomery
•Bumpin’ on Sunset – Wes Montgomery
•Awakening – Alexander Desplat
•Clouds – Alexander Desplat
•River – Alexander Desplat
•Circles – Alexander Desplat
•More Hope – Jon Brion
•Sign Up – Jon Brion
•Drive Home – Jon Brion
•Pick Up – Jon Brion
•Lady Bird Kiss – Jon Brion
•Rose Garden – Jon Brion
•Consolation – Jon Brion
•Hope – Jon Brion
•Titles – Jon Brion
•Mourning Pepper – Jon Brion
•Row – Jon Brion
•Drive In – Jon Brion
•Main Title – Jon Brion
•Spotless Mind – Jon Brion
•Constantine Snaps His Fingers – Rolfe Kent
•Miles’ Theme – Rolfe Kent
•I’m Not Drinking Any Merlot! – Rolfe Kent
•Miles and Maya – Rolfe Kent
•Slipping Away as Mum Sleeps – Rolfe Kent
•Chasing the Golfers – Rolfe Kent
•Los Olivos – Rolfe Kent
•DMI Thing from When She Was the Kitchen – Jon Brion
•Exodus – Kilar
•Victory Celebration – John Williams
•It’s An Abstract – Daniel Pemberton
•Toys and Stars – Carter Burwell
•Private Milne – Carter Burwell
•Little Notes – Daniel Hart
•The Secret in the Wall
• Snowfall, Snowrise – Carter Burwell
•Abandoning the Wedding – Rolfe Kent
•Soft Trees Break the Fall – Reznor
•Homerun – Jonatan Bengta
•The Dime – Jonatan Bengta
•Dad in Uniform and a Ten-Gallon Cowboy Hat – Jonatan Bengta
•Home Again – Mark Snow
•Time’s Passage – Jon Brion
•Row – Jon Brion
•School Early Morning – Rob Simonsen
•Mary’s Theme – Rob Simonsen
•The Wicked Flee – Cartwer Burwell
•La Boeuf Takes Leave
•Gossip – Mark Orton
•The Old Compressor – Mark Orton
•Diminished Capacity – Mark Orton
•Magna Carta – Mark Orton
•Mr. Frustration Man – Grim Fandango
•Opening Credits (Election) – Rolfe Kent
•Doug and Tracy – Rolfe Kent
•Talk to Jessie – Randy Newman
•The Cleaner – Randy Newman
•Off to the Museum – Randy Newman
•The North Mountain – Christopher Beck
•The Would be a Tuba – Wonder Boys
•End Credits Suite – Moonlight
•Bogart and Bergman – Justin Hurwitz
•Mia Gets Home
•Imaginary Friends – Roger Neill
•The Audition – Roger Neill
•Post Audition – Roger Neill
•Rose’s Theme – Marcelo Zarvos
•Chicago – Dickon Hinchliffe
•Caring – Dickon Hinchliffe
•Ricercare rusticano – Angelo Francesco Lavagnino
•Sur la route (II) – Daniel Pemberton
•Une autre réalité – Daniel Pemberton
•Une nouvelle vie – Daniel Pemberton
•So Now Then – Jon Brion
•Diary of a Wimpy Kid – Theodore Shapiro
•Meet Rowley – Theodore Shapiro
•Intellectual Wasteland – Theodore Shapiro
•The Suspension – Theodore Shapiro
•One for the Team – Theodore Shapiro
•The First Goodbye – Christopher Spelman
•The Lost City of Z – Christopher Spelman
•The Sweet Life – Matti Bye
•Spotlight – Howard Shore
•Deference and Complicity – Howard Shore
•Investigative Journalism – Howard Shore
•Legacy – Howard Shore
•Morning Procedures – Howard Shore
•Gifted – Rob Simonsen
•Things were going so well – Mychael Danna & Rob Simonsen
•I Want to Get Her Back – Mychael Danna & Rob Simonsen
•Jason & Cynthia Piano Theme – AR Rahman
•Undress – AR Rahman
•The Luau – AR Rahman
•The Castle – Craig Armstrong
•The Beach – Craig Armstrong
•Nathan Agrees – Craig Armstrong
•Autism in Love – Mac Quayle
•Social Antenna – Mac Quayle
•Lenny – Mac Quayle
•It Starts Here – Mac Quayle
•Dead Already – Thomas Newman
•Any Other Name – Thomas Newman
•Just the feller – Thomas Newman
•Road to Chicago – Thomas Newman
•Reading Room – Thomas Newman
•The Farm – Thomas Newman
•Road to Perdition – Thomas Newman
•Take Five – Dave Brubeck
•In a Silent Way – Miles Davis
•Huck Finn – Bill Conti
•Charlie Brown Theme – Vince Guaraldi

Thoughts in a park on a morning


It’s a lovely day. It’s cold but it’s nice. The sun is out. There’s a breeze. The smell of smoke is in the air. It’s a perfect November day.

Lola races ahead of me, as she always does. Six months ago she couldn’t walk but she runs now. Her tiny legs pound the ground as she explores the epic terrain. She’s flailing her arms as she soars, screaming and babbling. She’s incredibly happy.

I can’t help but be in awe of my little girl. She is pure energy on this morning and I’m almost jealous of her. I’m exhausted and depressed yet she’s so utterly unaware of any of this. She couldn’t comprehend any of what’s on my mind if she tried.

Lola and I act out a ritual from my childhood. I spent a lot of time at the parks with my parents. Now I’m the daddy keeping a close eye on his kid. The realization that the torch has passed hits me like a brick. I’m truly an adult now. I know that’s what others see.

But I don’t see it. I see the guy who yesterday had a meltdown over an unexpected financial hit. No way is that guy an adult. He’s not Lola but how can someone so weak be considered an adult? I’m ashamed of me.

That’s hard because that’s who I’m trying not to be. I’m trying to be the guy I’m playing now. I’m a put together father in a nice overcoat walking with his baby girl. I’m admirable in this moment. If you saw me you’d respect me.

Lola respects me. She’s loudly babbling to me. Every so often she looks up at me, asking me my thoughts on what she’s said in her baby vocabulary. Later we’ll curl up on the couch and she’ll coo as I read to her. She thinks I’m great.

And I don’t think I’m great. My confidence has been shaken of late as I’ve fought for something I wanted, an opportunity, and haven’t gotten. I made several very serious tries and was rejected every time. I feel like there’s something lacking in me.

How I wish that were my only worry this morning. I’m thinking of the news. Yet more names come out of men who’ve abused women/men. I feel nauseated at this behavior yet oddly uncomfortable. I want to condemn it, and I do, but I feel like I live in a glass house. I know I’m not perfect and I wonder what sins of mine will come to light. I’ve never done anything this bad but I’m uncomfortable thinking I’m “good.”

Then there’s my future. There were layoffs at my job. There’s change there. I’m certain I won’t be in the newspaper business within five years, despite training for a life in it. I’m not sure who I will be and that frustrates me. It make me wonder about my very identity.

My reverie is broken by Lola handing me an acorn she’s excitedly found. As I take it I look at my little girl and all questions about my identity and worth fade. I’m secondary now in my life. Lola is first.

We walk through the park. Lola runs and I let my mind go blank, just watching her.

In Praise of Big Nate

In 1994, at the last book fair I ever attended in Houston, I picked up a comic strip book that I knew nothing about. It was a collection of Lincoln Peirce’s Big Nate strips. The strip didn’t run in Houston papers and it wouldn’t run in any paper I’d ever read. As a result the book felt like a strange artifact from another world to me.

I read it and it cracked me up.  The book was one of the things I leaned on heavily during the move to Conway, in fact. Over time I memorized every word in the book. But that was the only book in the series and indeed through my childhood that was the only book that was ever published in the series. In time the book was packed away and I might vaguely recall it but nothing more.

In March 2010, I was at the library in North Little Rock when I stumbled upon a book that felt like a lightning bolt from my past. It was a hybrid comic/prose novel, the first in the Big Nate series. My childhood memories demanded I check it out so I did and within an hour consumed the book, thoroughly satisfied with an unexpectedly funny work.

7 years later, there’s now a mountain of books. Digitally, 17 years of the strip have been released in $4 collections. There’s 7 prose novels, a series which recently ended. There’s no end of collected volumes of the strip in print too. I’d argue no comic strip has been as easy to find at any time in print in fact.

So with that epic preface, let me finally get into why this strip is my comfort food. Big Nate is like almost all comic strips, a fairly formulaic strip with largely one joke that reiterates itself in various situations. What makes the strip work is it’s a funny joke: the male ego blinds itself to reality.

Over and over again, Nate Wright stumbles through a world he thinks he understands but has no idea about. He thinks he’s an art prodigy. (He’s not.) He thinks he’s a star athlete. (He’s terrible.) He thinks he’s irresistible to women. (He’s a creep.) He thinks his teachers are unfair to him. (They’re completely fair.)

This is something that I have to admit I find extremely entertaining. Nate’s continual obliviousness socially has to strike a chord with me as I frequently don’t get the world. I understand Nate Wright. I get living in your own world.

But the strip has far more virtues to offer beyond one good premise. Over 26 years, Peirce has crafted a world filled with great characters. Chad, the lovable nice guy. Gina, the brain. Artur, the “perfect” guy who is. The unseen Chester. His girlfriend Kim. These are hilarious characters. 

The strip has lost something over time. There was initially a greater focus on Nate’s art and I loved that. I do miss Doctor Cesspool. But I get why it’s gone. The strip evolved. 

What it became truly is wonderful. Big Nate isn’t adult and I love it for that. It’s a middle school comedy. But it’s a funny, smart one that makes me happy it’s there. It takes me back without condescension. And it was worth the wait.